This morning my awesome wife and I were cuddling up and talking
about our relationship over the years we have been together and how we have
grown from hopefully being able to trust each other fully to full trust in each
other.
Having full transparency in our relationship has taken years with
many bumps in the road. Mind you a dozen moves, six kids, learning to speak up
instead of bottle up, financial setbacks, and health issues have a way of
wringing out your lives. Those bumps can make or break a relationship. In our
case we have made it work.
Before we married, we both had a lot of trust issues. We were both
afraid of past relationships that were hard for us. I voiced that I didn’t know
if I could trust her fully. Unless you face your past fears and feelings, the
future has limits. We are what we fix and the walls we break down to build a
castle together. The trust we build together strengthens our bond and opens us
up to great emotional, physical, and spiritual intimacy with each other.
Cuddling and talking is a great start for a day and another huge building
block.
She asked me on a scale of 1 to 100 how much trust I have in her
now. My answer, 110%! Yes, that is the walls and bumps out and the castle
together. Our castle together isn’t a house built of wood and bricks but of
honesty, faith in God, family, and yes, trust in each other. Putting a monetary
value on that kind of togetherness can’t happen because it is priceless.
Many years before I met her, I heard a former religious class
teacher tell of the greatest gift you can give to your spouse is your heart.
Not literally but emotionally, and spiritually. Guarding that with our all. Yet
physically guarding what we say, do, and think at times. “Hearts for God and
eyes only for each other”. There are things that can break that trust if we
allow them in. Be careful what you say or post on the internet and what you
text to others. Don’t let that break trust and bonds. ”Therefore, shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave
unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” -Genesis 2:24 So becoming one is
that trust.
The world is filled with lots of plan B’s and
C’s. Hopefully you can make it with a plan A. Just know if you find yourself in
a second round. Make that second round a plan A. Be someone that can build that
trust. When you build it, strengthen it daily. Be someone a spouse can trust
in. Build a friendship. Build trust. Know that God loves us and building trust
with God helps build trust with others and that includes very much your spouse.
Be real, be one, be happy, be fun, and be yourself.
