Thirty Adventurous years!

Thirty adventurous years with moves and kids and much more. Marriage is not always rainbows and butterflies but some place in there you find where you fit together with each other. When you get past some of the crazy stuff you find out that being a bit crazy is all good too. She knows I am a bit of an ugly stick with a reel full of knotted up line and a hook with a fly that even a trash fish would laugh at but tells me I still have a place in her heart. Yet we have some cool kids and those grand kids are the bomb.

Two things I know have been the key for us and these may seem a bit odd to some. We are on the same page with each other and God. Yep if you have yourself a union based on love and God things do work best. Now I have seen a lot of married peeps that struggle much harder when they fight due to some parts of faith or no faith but over all it works for many. My attendance in church has always been a struggle because I don’t care for big crowds of people but my biggest thrill is holding her hand and knowing she is happy I am there with her. The other thing I would have to call Intimate Communication. Talk about everything. Yep, the good, the bad, and the ugly. I mean everything too. And when I say everything I mean from Money to Whoopee and everything in the middle. Be kind and considerate as you do. We have learned it is easier to walk and talk holding hands.

Find your common ground and embrace your difference. If you have kids take the time in there to relish time away now and then without the kids too. When you get to the point of an empty nest it is easier to relate to one another with out the kids as common ground. Find things together. Explore your passions and get to know your spouse’s passions. Not everything that I like does she like but be good at showing interest in those things as best you can. Find a passion together and ya just don’t know but in a roundabout way it can add to the passion between ya.

A few years ago, I did a post about things we have learned about us. Well add this one to that and understand life is continually changing. We have gone to many more seminars and conferences together and read a few more books also. We are counselors and we can tell you we have a lot more to learn about us. Love and marriage is an adventure. It helps if you focus on the scenery as you go and not when to we get to the summit. One day you could get to that point in life of bald, fat, wrinkly, blind, deaf, and senile and realize you missed life in some way or another.

So live life with adventure. Tell each other you love each other every moment you can even in those times when your so up set with each other you could spit nails and road tar. Yes, life is short and even though I feel there is more to this life than just the life we see. Kiss like it is your last kiss or your first kiss. If you have kids be so sappy that they are embarrassed by it because they may just thank you for it some day (my kids have).

May the next bunch of years be as much excitement as the first thirty has been. Happy thirty-year anniversary to the best Crazy Soul wife.