Thirty adventurous years with moves and kids and much more.
Marriage is not always rainbows and butterflies but some place in there you
find where you fit together with each other. When you get past some of the
crazy stuff you find out that being a bit crazy is all good too. She knows I am
a bit of an ugly stick with a reel full of knotted up line and a hook with a
fly that even a trash fish would laugh at but tells me I still have a place in
her heart. Yet we have some cool kids and those grand kids are the bomb.
Two things I know have been the key for us and these may seem
a bit odd to some. We are on the same page with each other and God. Yep if you
have yourself a union based on love and God things do work best. Now I have
seen a lot of married peeps that struggle much harder when they fight due to
some parts of faith or no faith but over all it works for many. My attendance
in church has always been a struggle because I don’t care for big crowds of
people but my biggest thrill is holding her hand and knowing she is happy I am
there with her. The other thing I would have to call Intimate Communication.
Talk about everything. Yep, the good, the bad, and the ugly. I mean everything
too. And when I say everything I mean from Money to Whoopee and everything in
the middle. Be kind and considerate as you do. We have learned it is easier to
walk and talk holding hands.
Find your common ground and embrace your difference. If you
have kids take the time in there to relish time away now and then without the
kids too. When you get to the point of an empty nest it is easier to relate to
one another with out the kids as common ground. Find things together. Explore
your passions and get to know your spouse’s passions. Not everything that I
like does she like but be good at showing interest in those things as best you
can. Find a passion together and ya just don’t know but in a roundabout way it
can add to the passion between ya.
A few years ago, I did a post about things we have learned
about us. Well add this one to that and understand life is continually
changing. We have gone to many more seminars and conferences together and read
a few more books also. We are counselors and we can tell you we have a lot more
to learn about us. Love and marriage is an adventure. It helps if you focus on the
scenery as you go and not when to we get to the summit. One day you could get
to that point in life of bald, fat, wrinkly, blind, deaf, and senile and
realize you missed life in some way or another.
So live life with adventure. Tell each other you love each
other every moment you can even in those times when your so up set with each
other you could spit nails and road tar. Yes, life is short and even though I
feel there is more to this life than just the life we see. Kiss like it is your
last kiss or your first kiss. If you have kids be so sappy that they are
embarrassed by it because they may just thank you for it some day (my kids
have).
May the next bunch of years be as much excitement as the
first thirty has been. Happy thirty-year anniversary to the best Crazy Soul
wife.
