25 years she has my heart.

Where to begin on this post. Some people come in to your life for different reasons. We come a crossed people in places that we least likely think about. I just happen to be one evening at the very start of another quarter of collage with a ward on a short trip to the temple. She looked at me and smiled as we were about walk out the door that evening, ok that’s cool. So we all go home and I happen to be at church that Sunday and didn’t think much about it. My other roommate happens to know the girls a few doors down in the apartments and they gave an invite to come over that evening to play some games. So we get there and wait there is the girl I saw a few nights earlier. The shock hits me, ok this could be interesting. After being there for some time I kind of think, self “this could be a good thing hanging out with this bunch”. A few weeks pass and things progress to the point of dinner and games with this bunch from some of the apartments every week. I found myself wanting to get to know this girl a bit more. But being the cowardly wimpy kind a guy I am I stalled. I kind of got the feel if I was to forward I could very well end up with a fat lip.

The change of the tide came one day when it was mentioned she was going to the track to run for a class (I had the same one) so I asked about going along. I got the feel at first that I was really stepping past that line of too forward. But things got past the stage of awkward and we were able to talk some as we ran and walk the track. Found out she really didn’t have plans to have a close guy friend for quite awhile, which was great because I didn’t want anything solid at the moment either. I needed to finally get some school done and stop playing around so much. Things would be cool or so I thought.

 Weeks passed and where it went from there well it was some what of a blur. How much time I have no idea but awhile. We went to see her brother one evening. Thinking something out of the next crazy lesson of life I slipped a note in her book. Yeppers, ya got it shocked her and I wasn’t sure if I had set a rocket in launch mode. I have to thank her roommate for honesty and telling her to see where it goes from here. She was ready to jump ship and swim for shore. For a few days I wasn’t sure if she was going to talk to me again. A few days later I see her and she still has that stunned look, and doesn’t say much. Things pass and I’m out with her and all seems to be going great, and we talk. So I walk her to the door and Yeppers ya guessed it a simple maybe kiss or so I thought. Game changer big time!! I thought yep it was a awesome kiss and I like her lots. She tells me years later she floated in and was in total shock. Her good roommate couldn’t get a lot of words out of her that night. So much for turning around at this point now and not having a close relationship.

There is a lot more to the story but fast forward a few months. That wimpy cowardly guy pops back up and can think if he is ready for more commitment. As much as I tried to talk myself out of things, the more I knew I had to follow my heart. An extended weekend was coming up and the plan was to take off with some family and friends on a trip to Lake Havasu to do some water skiing. She was planning to go and I figured it was a great time to jump in with both feet. Plans changed and we when snow skiing instead but all worked out. Asked her the big question on the deck of the ski lodge and she almost jumped on me. That weekend back at my parent’s house we were running out side and I made a feudal attempt at put her in the snow and found myself in the snow pile. Most guys would have changed their mind with that, nope I was already hooked. You might say she had me hook, line, sinker, and the boat at this point. June 18, 1988 was the day and the next big chapter of the grand adventures was on.

So here it is twenty five years later and we have been through a lot of changes, challenges, adventures, bonding moments, and life altering things that bring us closer. I have learned a lot in twenty five years too and I will list a few, well maybe ten. One- Respect each other, it’s more than a simple friendship. Two- Guard your heart, save it only for your spouse. Three- God, spouse, kids, other family and friends in that order. Four- Forgive and forget then forgive some more. Five- Over-communicate and never assume, kindly ask to know. Six- Regular date nights and get a ways. Seven- Never, ever say the “D” word! Eight- learn your spouse’s love language. Nine- never talk negatively about your spouse. Ten- Choose to love, even when the path of life gets crazy.

I have to barrow a term for a good brother in law, to describe how I feel about being married to my wife. I “Married Up” to say the least. I would say she could have had a Cadillac rather than a pinto but I consider myself blessed all the same. She has come to except me as a person working on the character flaws that I have and loves me just the same. She does some amazing things besides being an awesome wife and mother. I really hate to brag, well may be not, I have an AWESOME HOT WIFE!