Where to begin on this post. Some
people come in to your life for different reasons. We come a crossed people in
places that we least likely think about. I just happen to be one evening at the
very start of another quarter of collage with a ward on a short trip to the
temple. She looked at me and smiled as we were about walk out the door that
evening, ok that’s cool. So we all go home and I happen to be at church that
Sunday and didn’t think much about it. My other roommate happens to know the
girls a few doors down in the apartments and they gave an invite to come over
that evening to play some games. So we get there and wait there is the girl I
saw a few nights earlier. The shock hits me, ok this could be interesting.
After being there for some time I kind of think, self “this could be a good
thing hanging out with this bunch”. A few weeks pass and things progress to the
point of dinner and games with this bunch from some of the apartments every
week. I found myself wanting to get to know this girl a bit more. But being the
cowardly wimpy kind a guy I am I stalled. I kind of got the feel if I was to
forward I could very well end up with a fat lip.
The change of the tide came one day
when it was mentioned she was going to the track to run for a class (I had the
same one) so I asked about going along. I got the feel at first that I was
really stepping past that line of too forward. But things got past the stage of
awkward and we were able to talk some as we ran and walk the track. Found out
she really didn’t have plans to have a close guy friend for quite awhile, which
was great because I didn’t want anything solid at the moment either. I needed
to finally get some school done and stop playing around so much. Things would
be cool or so I thought.
Weeks passed and where it
went from there well it was some what of a blur. How much time I have no idea but
awhile. We went to see her brother one evening. Thinking something out of
the next crazy lesson of life I slipped a note in her book. Yeppers, ya got it shocked her and I wasn’t sure if I had set a rocket in launch mode. I have to thank her
roommate for honesty and telling her to see where it goes from here. She was
ready to jump ship and swim for shore. For a few days I wasn’t sure if she was
going to talk to me again. A few days later I see her and she still has that
stunned look, and doesn’t say much. Things pass and I’m out with her and all
seems to be going great, and we talk. So I walk her to the door and Yeppers ya
guessed it a simple maybe kiss or so I thought. Game changer big time!! I
thought yep it was a awesome kiss and I like her lots. She tells me years later
she floated in and was in total shock. Her good roommate couldn’t get a lot of words
out of her that night. So much for turning around at this point now and not
having a close relationship.
There is a lot more to the story
but fast forward a few months. That wimpy cowardly guy pops back up and can
think if he is ready for more commitment. As much as I tried to talk myself out
of things, the more I knew I had to follow my heart. An extended weekend was
coming up and the plan was to take off with some family and friends on a trip
to Lake Havasu to do some water skiing. She was planning to go and I figured it
was a great time to jump in with both feet. Plans changed and we when snow
skiing instead but all worked out. Asked her the big question on the deck of
the ski lodge and she almost jumped on me. That weekend back at my parent’s
house we were running out side and I made a feudal attempt at put her in the
snow and found myself in the snow pile. Most guys would have changed their mind
with that, nope I was already hooked. You might say she had me hook, line,
sinker, and the boat at this point. June 18, 1988 was the day and the next big
chapter of the grand adventures was on.
So here it is twenty five years
later and we have been through a lot of changes, challenges, adventures,
bonding moments, and life altering things that bring us closer. I have learned
a lot in twenty five years too and I will list a few, well maybe ten. One-
Respect each other, it’s more than a simple friendship. Two- Guard your heart,
save it only for your spouse. Three- God, spouse, kids, other family and
friends in that order. Four- Forgive and forget then forgive some more. Five-
Over-communicate and never assume, kindly ask to know. Six- Regular date nights
and get a ways. Seven- Never, ever say the “D” word! Eight- learn your spouse’s
love language. Nine- never talk negatively about your spouse. Ten- Choose to
love, even when the path of life gets crazy.
I have to barrow a term for a good
brother in law, to describe how I feel about being married to my wife. I
“Married Up” to say the least. I would say she could have had a Cadillac rather
than a pinto but I consider myself blessed all the same. She has come to except
me as a person working on the character flaws that I have and loves me just the
same. She does some amazing things besides being an awesome wife and mother. I
really hate to brag, well may be not, I have an AWESOME HOT WIFE!
