It is what it is! Yep, life skills!
Teaching your kids that cooking, cleaning, and picking up after
themselves is not women's work but life skills that are necessary in functional
relationships and families. So, let's fill in the blank from a previous post
about a man cooking and washing dishes with a great comment.
“Someone who recognizes that these things aren't 'women's jobs'
and contributes to his household like a decent human being.” -Mandy Winter
Thoughts from the Crazy Soul:
As humans we give each other a bad rap in various ways in this
life. Mind you if we stepped back and pulled ourselves out of the picture frame,
we view things differently than we would otherwise. The roles of people in a
household and family.
Think about the attitude of men and women about what we do and do
not do. Yep, we generalize so many things that we get blinded by the negative
things in life and the good things we do have get pushed to the curb. I say
that knowing somewhere out there someone will inevitably disagree and that is
okay knowing we all don’t have the same life skills and experience.
If you are in a life situation that you really don’t like, finding
positive ways to change your life would certainly be better. Honestly you can’t
have a better life without breaking the cycle you’re in. Now let me explain
this. Your spouse doesn’t pick up after themselves and so you pick up after
them. That is adding to the cycle of laziness in the world. Now this is a four-lane
freeway and it goes both ways. Meaning both men and women can be held in the
laziness lane. Mind you I get it but adding to it and then complaining about
the cycle is like jumping off a cliff into a raging river then blaming the
cliff for not stopping you from taking the plunge. You can’t make people change
but you can influence them in ways that are positive.
If you can work a smart phone, then you can also use the washer,
dryer, and everything else in the house. If you can read a book about fixing
396 engines, you can certainly follow a recipe.
I know a feller that can hunt and fish like nobody’s business. He
can fix a truck and fix equipment in the oil field. He can also bake the best
blonde brownies ever from scratch. On the other hand, if you can drive a car a
tractor or lawn mower isn’t out of your doing either.
Don’t jyp the next generation with being self-reliant and able to
benefit others. Best thing you can give your kids is an education of life and
skills, school and books are nice but still very much short. Enabling is a sure
shot for failure. For kids to succeed in life they need to be resilient and
adaptable so they can swim and tread water when the floods happen in their
lives and it will happen.
Keep this in mind. I have kids and grandkids. Doesn’t make me
perfect but I certainly have learned a lot of things about life. At a young age
my kids and now grandkids are learning and doing things for themselves and as
part of my family puts it doing their “Family Contributions”. Yes, I can and
practice being a good team player when it comes to skills in the laundry room,
and kitchen. I can also fix that 396. In the words of Red Green “if the women
don’t find you handsome, they should at least find you handy.” I may not be the
most handsome feller but I’m handy. Yes, I do have a few recipes with my name
on them and some with use of a Dutch oven or three.
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